When you break-up, it doesn't need to be the absolute end of the relationship. Instead it can be a period of reflection where you realise just how much you do love your ex and how badly you want them back. If this sounds like you, then it's time to get over what's happened in the past and start acting in the present!
Here are 5 things you can do to win back your ex:
Show confidence
Be strong not needy. Men and women love the challenge of trying to attract strong, interesting people who are fun and know how to be confident in a social setting. There is no challenge in chasing someone who is weak and readily available. If you are the type of person who allows your partner to become your entire world then you need to change and become more independent and confident.
Show you can live without them
It’s said that “distance makes the heart grow fonder” and that can be a useful tool for winning back your ex. Sometimes you need time to let things cool off and remember why you found your ex attractive originally. If those same qualities are present then the desire can be rekindled and the lines of communication can be re-opened.
Show her you can be reasonable
A little flexibility and understanding can go a long way to smoothing over the rough patches of a break-up. Allowing your ex some time to gather their thoughts without the pressure of you making demands will help them realise you can be reasonable. This will encourage them to attempt to start communications again because they think you’ll be more likely to listen to their concerns and understand their point of view. In time, good communications will help you both work things out
Show independence
Along with showing confidence (above), if you have already broken up it is also necessary to show independence in the form of developing your own life outside of your partner. Get out and socialise, join clubs and meet new people. Don’t be tempted to stay home and dwell on your situation as this will make you more liable to foolish decisions and actions that you’ll regret later.
Show yourself
By this I mean show your true character. Whenever you live with someone you modify your personality to some extent to fit in with the other person. This may be part of the reason you and your ex split up – maybe your new personality was not as likable as your old one! Therefore, find your old self and be yourself – this in itself may be enough to rekindle the flame you once shared.
While the points above are unlikely to be sufficient by themselves, they will give you a good start and should show you enough to know whether you can get your ex back or not. Good luck with your task, it won’t be easy but with determination, flexibility and confidence you should be successful.
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