Secret of blissful relationship

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Just got one of Michael Webs weekly mails and thought it is worth sharing this one with you.It focuses on 3 Big F's which Should not be lacking in any relationship (Fighting, Forgiving and Forgetting).So if your relationship is short of any of these 3 factors then it is worth reading this article.

Most couples fight. And no, it is not healthy for a relationship
to fight (nor is it healthy to ignore problems in your marriage).
I need to define "fight." Fighting is not the same as arguing
your point or disagreeing on a matter. You can argue or disagree
without losing your temper or fighting. It becomes a fight when
either tempers flare or one person intentionally tries to hurt the
other, usually emotionally.

But the fight itself is not usually what is the most damaging to
a relationship. Like a wound that is not properly cleaned and
bandaged, injuries from a fight, if left uncared for can become
infected and even have the potential to kill a relationship.

You have probably heard of cases where men or women had a simple
infection that they ignored that eventually caused them to have a
foot, leg or arm amputated. Ignoring the wounds from a fight can
have devastating results.

If you and your partner have had a fight, here are some ways you can
"clean and bandage" the wounds so that healing will take place:

It takes two to fight. So if you have any injuries you are
partly to blame. There are rarely "innocent" victims. Admit the
role you played. Try to be the first to say "I'm sorry" for your
part in the fight, either provoking it or responding to it.

Deal with the wound as soon as is possible (before you go to
bed). The longer you let an injury remain wide open, the greater
the chances of the hurt becoming infected and the more pronounced
the scar will become.

Create a peace treaty. Really. Write down promises you can make
to each other so this same issue will not result in another fight.

Don't fixate on the ugly wound. Focus on (write down if possible)
the wonderful qualities of your mate. It is easier to forgive
those you think highly of.

Actively love the person you just fought with, even if it is
the last thing you want to do. Write love notes, slow dance, make
passionate love, etc. Love is a wonderful ointment that speeds up
the healing process.

Pray (together if at all possible) about the situation. Ask God
to heal you of your imperfections and to heal the pain you have
caused. Don't ask God to "fix" the other person.

Once you have cleaned and bandaged a wound, forget about it.
Don't be tempted to keeping peeking at the injury - it will only
slow down the healing.

Roses in love

Rose, the very word reminds us of the beautiful emotions that human being have ever experienced, love. Roses have never failed to depict the love, romance and passion within a relationship. When someone in love think of flowers, the first and last thing that comes in his/her mind are roses. Roses can express the feeling of love when words are inadequate to utter out the innermost feelings. A bouquet of roses is the deemed to be one of the best Valentine's Day gift ideas. But what most of us don't know is that roses of different colours have some significance of their own. We will tell you about the different colour of roses and what they really signify.

Red rose, which is the most common colour truly signifies the love, romance and intense passion of a lover. It's a popular belief that roses are the perfect window to a refined expression. It's lovers favorite flower and hot-pick for love struck-couples. Fiancé give it to their Fiancée, Boyfriends prefer it over any other gift and husbands love to surprise their wives by presenting rose bunches to celebrate their love. Rose Day, Valentine's Day, Marriage anniversary, Birthday or Courtship period, roses speak their own language of love. Bouquet of roses always click well and bring smile of the faces instantly.

Pink roses represent elegance and refinement. The darker shade of the pink rose symbolizes gratitude and admiration. A lighter shade of the pink rose symbolizes respect and understanding. The valentine season has all the colors of roses for you to select the most appropriate one to be given with true feelings.

Yellow roses signify happiness and cheerfulness also conveying your message of love and care. Combinations of red and yellow roses together indicate cheerful and happy feelings. The various shades of an orange rose make the valentine day special. Dark or deep orange indicates unconscious beauty while a lighter shade signifies passion and desire. Roses of pastel colors stand for warmth and friendship. A lavender color rose signifies love at first sight and fascination. Besides the various colors there are the hybrid tea roses that have a unique meaning of their own. These roses signify unforgettable memories of your loved one.

Two roses stalked together to figure a single stem are symbolic of a relationship of commitment or the upcoming of a marriage. The most common roses that are usually given on valentine are the red roses that signify love and romance. So select the best of roses to be given on Valentine and enjoy the season.

Test Your Pressure!

The pictures are non-animated pictures.
They are related to your pressure level.
If you see them to move, then that means you have pressure currently.
The speed of the moving is the level of your pressure.
The higher that moving speed, the higher pressure you have.
Most children and old men only see the pictures are not moving and keep still.
I saw them move in a slow motion, that’s mean I have a bit pressure currently.
Test yourself regularly with these pictures to know yourself better.
Sometimes, it is good to have a appropriate pressure to push us to do better,
but too much pressure can cause us to the end of the edge.
Be relax when you know you have too much pressure inside !

Best Men's Health Tips

Men's Health Tips

Today's prevention tools and treatments are helping men maintain and regain their health. Did you know that cure rates for testicular cancer approach 100 percent when detected early? Historically, men have been more reluctant than women to see their physician and they often wait until symptoms are severe. But new procedures and screenings are making it possible for various diseases to be detected while they are still highly treatable.

Here are some tips for living a long and healthy life:

1. Be physically active. Incorporate 30 minutes of activity into your day, every day.

2. See your physician for regular preventive check ups and screenings, such as the PSA test for prostate cancer.

3. Learn the symptoms of heart attack and stroke and if you have them, get help fast. New medications are highly effective if given quickly.

4. Don't smoke.

5. If you drink alcohol, do so in moderation, no more than two drinks per day.

6. Eat a balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, and whole grains.

7. Have your cholesterol checked. If your total cholesterol is more than 240, your risk of heart and stroke is greater.

8. Remember to laugh. Find the humor in life. You'll be happier, and so will those who love you.

Top 10: Least Romantic Gifts For Women

No.10 - Tools

Say the word “tool” and the rows of miter saws at Home Depot dance in a guy's head. Good job fella, gifts like that should always be avoided. This includes anything used for manual labor -- household items for chores, products for gardening or anything that will involve her breaking a sweat. It doesn't matter if she hates the vacuum or needs a new hand mixer for holiday cooking; they are still associated with work. Work is never romantic. Unless you are a professional gigolo.

No.9 - Advertised jewelry

Jewelry is an incredibly romantic gift if -- big if -- you take the time to pick it out for her. It shows you are paying attention to her tastes. It's lazy to just buy whatever deal is on sale, and it’s extra pathetic to buy any jewelry advertised on TV or “designed” by a celebrity. What the hell does Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman know about necklace design? This is one of the least romantic gifts because it shows you have no originality, and thousands of other women will have the same necklace or bracelet as your girlfriend.

No.8 - Workout gear

She loves to work out, so the gift makes sense. Wrong. It doesn’t matter if her gym clothes are one wash away from disintegrating; buying workout gear is like saying: “Here is extra motivation to get your fat ass into the gym.” May the sweet Lord save your soul if you get the wrong size athletic bra or spandex pants. It goes without saying that exercise equipment is also one of the least romantic gifts -- ever.

No.7 - Gift certificates

A gift certificate is a great way to say: “I know nothing about you, so here; go buy yourself something from a store I think girls like you would shop in.” It also takes roughly three minutes for the entire gift certificate transaction. Do you really want your girlfriend or wife thinking you spent three minutes on her gift? Then again she does know you do plenty of things for only three minutes, so she shouldn’t be shocked. Oh, and money as a gift? Are you her grandmother or her partner? Put that checkbook back in your desk, you ninny. That is most definitely one of the least romantic gifts you can give your girlfriend.

No.6 - A self-help book

Sure she’d love to control her temper, be more outgoing in social situations or learn to meditate, but these are personal battles she’d rather fight on her own terms and through her own methods. She doesn’t want the one she loves to present her with a book to solve all her problems. You are supposed to think she is perfect. Regardless of whatever personal issues she needs to work through, she doesn't need to be reminded of them on her birthday or on your anniversary. She doesn't gift wrap a can of Right Guard for you, does she?

No.5 - A pet

Ignore those commercials and movies where the man surprises a woman with an adorable puppy or a cuddly little kitten. While a pet is an incredibly cute gift, it’s also a huge responsibility -- which is why it’s one of the least romantic gifts, when you think about all the work a pet entails. A puppy needs training, love and attention. Plus the added bills -- veterinarian, food, toys, and a ton of other things that might stretch her wallet. If you get her a pet, you can forget about having sex for a while. Not in front of Mr. Waffles. He‘s watching.

No.4 - A stuffed animal

Here is a great rule of thumb when buying a woman a romantic gift: Stop and ask yourself if this is something you would have done for a girl when you were 12 years old. If the answer is yes, it’s one of the least romantic gifts you can get her. Unless your partner is in high school, or insane, a stuffed animal is tacky. Especially the kind that come with sets of perfume, chocolates or any product that doesn’t need a stuffed monkey to make a sale. Flowers are incredibly romantic. Flowers held by a dog with a heart on his chest that says "I RUFF YOU" is a crime against common sense punishable by a swift punch in the nuts.

No.3 - A gag gift

The gag gift is funny -- for the first three minutes. Usually just to the guy. Then the giggling subsides (seriously, stop giggling dude) and she is left with a fish that sings or a mug that says “Work Sucks” when you push the button on the handle. Then this least romantic gift is a dust collector that sits in her closet until you turn your back and she throws it out or you break up and she tells friends about the terrible gift over drinks: "Remember that guy I dated who bought me the Snuggie? It was the only thing in our relationship that kept me warm." Ouch, that is rough.

No.2 - Sexy lingerie

It seems like a good idea, right? Something sexy for the bedroom for her, something sexy for the bedroom for you, too. Unfortunately, men and women are miles apart in the lingerie-buying department. Women want sexy yet practical. Men head straight for the Wild West hooker department. Sure she might wear it once to appease you, but it will get stuffed so far in her underwear drawer the wood will get a wedgie. Save the lingerie for a joint shopping trip. At least then you can be there when she tries it on.

No.1 - Porn

When buying a romantic gift, if it's something your best friend would also find awesome, put it back. Some women do like an occasional peek at on-screen nookie. It seems forbidden and naughty and gets them in the mood for the next three minutes of pleasure. But don't get too optimistic; porn is not something women want to see constantly, and it's definitely not something she wants to keep on a shelf with her other DVDs.

Most Important Part

My mother used to ask me what is the most important part of the body. Through the years I would take a guess at what I thought was the correct answer. When I was younger, I thought sound was very important to us as humans, so I said, 'My ears, Mommy.'

She said, 'No. Many people are deaf. But you keep thinking about it and I will ask you again soon.'

Several years passed before she asked me again. Since making my first attempt, I had contemplated the correct answer.

So this time I told her, 'Mommy, sight is very important to everybody, so it must be our eyes'.

She looked at me and told me, 'You are learning fast, but the answer is not correct because there are many people who are blind.'

Stumped again, I continued my quest for knowledge and over the years, Mother asked me a couple more times and always her answer was, 'No. But you are getting smarter every year, my child.'

Then last year, my grandpa died. Everybody was hurt. Everybody was crying. Even my father cried. I remember that especially because it was only the second time I saw him cry. My Mom looked at me when it was our turn to say our final good-bye to Grandpa.

She asked me, 'Do you know the most important body part yet, my dear?' I was shocked when she asked me this now. I always thought this was a game between her and me. She saw the confusion on my face and told me, 'This question is very important. It shows that you have really lived in your life. For every body part you gave me in the past, I have told you was wrong and I have given you an example why. But today is the day you need to learn this important lesson.'She looked down at me as only a mother can. I saw her eyes well up with tears.



She said, 'My dear, the most important body part is your shoulder.'I asked, 'Is it because it holds up your head?' She replied, 'No, it is because it can hold the head of a friend or a loved one when they cry. Everybody needs a shoulder to cry on sometime in life, my dear. I only hope that you have enough love and friends that you will always have a shoulder to cry on when you need it.'

Then and there I knew the most important body part is not a selfish one.It is sympathetic to the pain of others. People will forget what you said.......People will forget what you did........ But people will NEVER forget how you made them feel.

7 Reasons NOT to Take Your Laptop on Holiday!

Heading off on vacation soon?

Then perhaps you're tempted to take your trusty laptop along
for the trip.

After all, you bought it for its mobility, and it's nice to
stay in touch via email with your family and friends back
home.

However, just before you start packing, its pays to consider
the downside of traveling with a laptop, particularly if
you're planning to go abroad:



1. Weight

A laptop (plus accessories) starts to feel heavy very
quickly. And who really needs MORE luggage to carry around?

2. Security risk

To you, it's a laptop computer. To a thief, it's a bag of
easy money. (About $1000). And that bag is something you
have to guard every second of your vacation.

3. Power supply problems

You'll need a different power adaptor plug for each country
you visit. And depending on your laptop power supply cable,
you may also need a step-up / step-down voltage transformer.

4. Connection complications

You'll need to find a way of connecting to the Internet. If
your laptop is suitably equipped and you can find a local
hotspot, you can take advantage of wireless Internet access.

Otherwise you're stuck with dial-up modem access, which
means a choice between:

- using your existing ISP's local call number in the
country you're visiting (provided your ISP has a local
number! AOL and Compuserve generally do.)

- making a long-distance telephone call to your regular
dial-up number back home

- signing up with a local ISP (rarely practical in the
short-term)

5. Telephone socket trouble

Different countries have different types of telephone
socket. If you're planning on connecting via dial-up access,
you'll have to bring a suitable telephone adaptor plug.

You'll also need a digital signal tester to test for higher-
voltage digital telephones lines. Otherwise you could end
up frying your modem and possibly the motherboard too.

6. Extra insurance cover

It's highly unlikely your travel insurance policy extends to
laptop computers. You'll therefore need to arrange separate
specialist insurance cover, which isn't cheap.

7. You're on holiday!

Do you really want your office with you on vacation? Aren't
you supposed to be getting away from it all?

If you're beginning to think that traveling with a laptop
computer is a major logistical exercise, then you're right.
(Just ask any "road warrior"!)

However, there IS an alternative:

An Internet Cafe.

Almost every city and large town now has several Internet
cafes. To locate one when you're abroad, just ask your
hotel receptionist or a friendly taxi driver.

You'll also find Internet cafes in airports, railway
stations, major hotels, business centers, public libraries,
and even onboard cruise ships.

Before you leave on your travels, simply ensure you can
access your email via a web browser. (This is known as
"webmail". Most ISPs offer this option automatically - just
ask them if you're unsure.)

Alternatively, set up a free webmail address (at
hotmail.com or yahoo.com) for the duration of your trip and
give it to anyone who might need to contact you.

With webmail set up, all you have to worry about is
remembering your email login and password. Everything else -
hardware, connectivity, security - is somebody else's
problem.